As a psychic and intuitive counselor, I get a lot of people writing to me to ask when they’re going to be happy—as if I could pull a date out of my butt and promise them that on that day they would start to be more cheerful! It doesn’t work like that, I’m afraid. Guaranteed happiness isn’t something that you find. It’s not something that someone gives to you either.
That’s another question that I get asked; “When will I find someone to make me happy?” Well, I’ve got news for you. If you’re not happy in your own company with your own life, it’s unlikely you’re going to find someone who will make you happy. No one wants to hang around someone if they’re just miserable all the time.
The Law of Attraction
In order to find guaranteed happiness that no one can take away from you, you have to create it yourself. It isn’t hard to do this, but it does take some effort on your part. Choose to be happy and work towards manifesting your own bliss. Yes, the Law of Attraction does work, but not in the way that most people think. You can’t sit around on your couch wishing for change and call that the Law of Attraction! You have to get out there and do things differently if you’re going to see real results.
One of the fastest ways of creating joy in your life is to immerse yourself into activities you like to do. You don’t have to do them with anyone, you don’t have to wait for an invitation. Get out there and take the class, learn the skill, or visit the places that you always wanted to, but never got around to doing. Empower yourself to do what you want, rather than waiting on someone else to swoop in and make it better. Make yourself a priority, and do what you enjoy doing.
Less Is More
Another thing that people who are sincerely content in their lives do is they get rid of everything that’s holding them back from being all they can be. If this is you, then it’s time to go through what you need in your life and what’s just baggage. This can be physical clutter, it can be emotional baggage, and it can be attitudes and ideals that no longer serve you. The more you unclutter your life, the more room you create to be joyful. Too much stuff just stresses you out because it’s more responsibility. Weed out what’s unnecessary and only care for the things that are meaningful.
No More Poison
Of course, you’ve not been intentionally poisoning yourself, but are your relationships doing that to you? If you’ve been used to others putting you down, if you’ve always been the last one to be invited or the first one to pick up the phone, if things are not equal, then you’ve got some soul searching to do about just why these people are in your life, and why you’re letting them treat you the way that they do. You cannot control their actions, but you’re in full control of your own. If you don’t like it, change it. You may have to remove yourself from some toxic people in order to find your guaranteed happiness, and if that’s the case, don’t be afraid to do it. Your happiness is your responsibility, not someone else’s.
A Sense of Value
As you begin the process of creating happiness in your life, your values will change. If you’re decluttering, you’ll start to value space, rather than things. The items that you choose to keep in your life will take on more value and become more precious to you. That goes for your relationships as well. When you get rid of the people who were using you and putting you down, you’ll start to see the people who stood beside you and encouraged you. You’ll have stronger relationships with them because you’ve got the quality time to spend with each other now, rather than being bogged down by people who don’t have your best interests at heart.
Like Energy Attracts Like Energy
This isn’t just new-age mumbo jumbo. It’s all to do with the neuroreceptors in your brain. They’re wired to seek out what you tell them to find. If you’ve got into the habit of looking at what’s going wrong in your life, then that’s what your mind will try to find for you. When you start looking for everything that is going right, then your mind will look for that. Keeping a gratitude journal and writing down only the good things that happened to you at the end of each day will help you with this process. Dropped a glass of water? Be thankful it wasn’t a gallon. Chihuahua pooped on the carpet? Be glad it wasn’t a Great Dane! Flat tire? Be happy your engine didn’t blow! There’s something good in every situation. Make a conscious effort to find it.
Not every day is going to be stellar. The car is still going to break down, the roof is still going to leak, the cat will still gag up a furball on the bed, and people are still going to talk about you behind your back. In fact, even more people will talk about you, because it’s easier to try to drag you into their unhappiness than it is for them to empower themselves to find their own joy. You can’t control any of this, so don’t get bent out of shape trying. Allow yourself time to scream or pull weeds or whatever you do to vent your frustration, and then get right back on track.
Guaranteed happiness comes because you empower yourself and take control over your life, but at the end of the day you’re only human. Life’s ups and downs are part of the human experience, so embrace them, then put them behind you and go forward in joy and satisfaction. As Robb Johnson once said, “It’s not a bad world, it’s just badly organized.” Be the changes that you want to see in it. You’ll be surprised at how soon things turn around in your favor!
About Sarah Bellum
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